"I can't tell what I'm feeling. I just know it's a lot."
The Weather Report Rule
You don't have to fix the weather. Just report it.
Feel · 60 seconds
- Sit down or lean on something solid. Let it hold you.
- Breathe in through your nose for a slow count of four, out through your mouth for a slow count of six. Five rounds. Longer out than in.
- Ask: "If this feeling were weather, what is the forecast?" Say it out loud. "Heavy fog, chance of shame, wind from the inbox."
File
You don't need the perfect word. Pick the closest one or two: Overwhelmed. Embarrassed. Hurt. Angry. Tired. Scared. Lonely. Wired.
Say to yourself: "I'm allowed to feel this before I understand it."
Next
Write the forecast on the log page in one line. Then do one thing for your body: drink water, eat something, open a window. A lot of "a lot" has a body-shaped cause: hunger, tiredness, hours on a screen.
If someone asks what's wrong: "I'm not sure yet. It's loud in here. Give me twenty minutes."
Don't
- Don't interrogate yourself for The Reason.
- Don't make a big decision while the fog is in.
- Don't tell yourself you "should" be over it.